Thank you for answering my question. I am intrigued because I also have been through multiple losses and I agree, there are no answers really. I got through, not because my parents encouraged me to be strong but because, when I lost my son in a car crash, I had other children to think of and the rest of my family who love me. I suppose, having them there, stopped me giving up completely.
Then when my brother died eight months later I just shut down. I've been gradually learning to feel again the last eight years or so.
When I read The Wild Other I was in awe of your bravery although bravery comes in many forms of course.
I do SO wish I could time travel back to see my parents again. I do also wonder about dreams, as someone the other night (when we were out with a big group) was saying that finally her father showed up in her dreams and she was saying it’s about time, where were you? And it made me think about my own dreams because my parents show up in my dreams almost every night and I remember those dreams. They aren’t exactly the same people, though a bit different, but we do things together. Do you dream of your sister? What do you think of dreaming?
Thanks for sharing so honestly here. I wanted to ask a question when you initially opened up for them but I couldn't quite form what I wanted to ask, but I think I have now.
You are in the interesting position of having two "grown" kids, and three relatively little ones. How do you cope with the inevitable guilt of motherhood, and has this changed over time, with each stage of parenting? I have three kids 6 and under, and I feel like I'm constantly treading the line between examining my guilt to see if there are things I need to change (e.g. in the ways I interact with them, the decisions I make about childcare), and where to just let things go and accept that I am trying hard to make sure we're all happyish and that's all I can do.
Individualism is a strange sickness I feel - one which makes my 'me' defined by difference and somehow 'wrong' - and yet reading memoir (and especially yours) I find my me in you - your you in me ... and the more openly I write (and I do find it hard to shake off affected stylised habits) the more I find myself out there - My me in words surprises me ... Thank you for your brave authenticity. xx All love. CC
Thank you for another enjoyable video, Clover, with some intriguing comments on writing craft.
By the way, I made and ate delicious banana, almond paste and yoghurt topped fruit toast while I listened to you. And so enjoyed my dinner in Sydney with you in the US. :)
Ah, loved reading both your AMA questions and answers Clover. So juicy! Perfect reading material whilst I was ‘stuck’ in bed this morning with a snoozing baby on my chest 🤭 Also reminded me that you have a new book, and I need to buy it!
I just finished The Wild Other and I absolutely loved it. It reminded me a bit of Cheryl Strayed’s Wild, one of my favourites. I’m new to your writing but looking forward to reading more!
Thank you for answering my question. I am intrigued because I also have been through multiple losses and I agree, there are no answers really. I got through, not because my parents encouraged me to be strong but because, when I lost my son in a car crash, I had other children to think of and the rest of my family who love me. I suppose, having them there, stopped me giving up completely.
Then when my brother died eight months later I just shut down. I've been gradually learning to feel again the last eight years or so.
When I read The Wild Other I was in awe of your bravery although bravery comes in many forms of course.
I do SO wish I could time travel back to see my parents again. I do also wonder about dreams, as someone the other night (when we were out with a big group) was saying that finally her father showed up in her dreams and she was saying it’s about time, where were you? And it made me think about my own dreams because my parents show up in my dreams almost every night and I remember those dreams. They aren’t exactly the same people, though a bit different, but we do things together. Do you dream of your sister? What do you think of dreaming?
I’m disappointed… Pete isn’t a spy! Shucks!
Thanks for sharing so honestly here. I wanted to ask a question when you initially opened up for them but I couldn't quite form what I wanted to ask, but I think I have now.
You are in the interesting position of having two "grown" kids, and three relatively little ones. How do you cope with the inevitable guilt of motherhood, and has this changed over time, with each stage of parenting? I have three kids 6 and under, and I feel like I'm constantly treading the line between examining my guilt to see if there are things I need to change (e.g. in the ways I interact with them, the decisions I make about childcare), and where to just let things go and accept that I am trying hard to make sure we're all happyish and that's all I can do.
Thank you Clover -
Individualism is a strange sickness I feel - one which makes my 'me' defined by difference and somehow 'wrong' - and yet reading memoir (and especially yours) I find my me in you - your you in me ... and the more openly I write (and I do find it hard to shake off affected stylised habits) the more I find myself out there - My me in words surprises me ... Thank you for your brave authenticity. xx All love. CC
Thank you for another enjoyable video, Clover, with some intriguing comments on writing craft.
By the way, I made and ate delicious banana, almond paste and yoghurt topped fruit toast while I listened to you. And so enjoyed my dinner in Sydney with you in the US. :)
Ah, loved reading both your AMA questions and answers Clover. So juicy! Perfect reading material whilst I was ‘stuck’ in bed this morning with a snoozing baby on my chest 🤭 Also reminded me that you have a new book, and I need to buy it!
I really enjoyed your two part ask any questions. I will think of a question to ask 😘😘
I just finished The Wild Other and I absolutely loved it. It reminded me a bit of Cheryl Strayed’s Wild, one of my favourites. I’m new to your writing but looking forward to reading more!